As a battered wife, I know you do not wake up the day after and go "oh, I am leaving". You stay in the relationship thinking maybe if I love him/her enough he/she will change. Maybe if I try harder he/she will love me more. If only I had been a better wife/husband or mate. I know the fears and the tears that go with being abused. Abuse is not just being battered, it can come in so many forms. It can be with the hand or object, it can be with harsh words or mind games.I have only been out of my relationship 7 months and I find myself falling into that pit in relationships that are new. The red flags go up and I dismiss them and then later go, oh that was a warning.

You ask yourself how would I know this? I know it because a dear friend L.J. helped me learn to love myself enough to see that I needed to walk away from a abusive relationship myself. He showed me that I had to stand up to this person and say "NO MORE." It is only through his friendship that I could find the strength to leave. So, please listen to your friends and family. They see you are worthy of love and you did not cause this abuse.

Please e-mail me if you need someone to listen and understand.
Look at the signs below, do any of them pertain to your relationship(s)?
If you are a young woman (15+), please look at this page.

 

WARNING SIGNS OF ABUSE

You may be in an abusive relationship if your partner has done any of the following:

· Ignored your feelings regularly.
· Continually criticized you, called you names or shouted at you.
· Withheld approval, appreciation or affection as punishment.
· Ridiculed or insulted your most valued beliefs, your religion, race, class or sexual preference.
· Punched, shoved, slapped, bit, kicked, choked or hit you. .
· Manipulated you with lies.
· Insisted you dress the way he/she wants.
· Humiliated you in private or public.
· Threatened to commit suicide if you leave.
· Taken car keys or money away.
· Subjected you to reckless driving.
· Thrown objects at you.
· Abused pets to hurt you.
· Been very jealous--harassed you about imagined affairs
· Raped you or subjected you to other violent or degrading non-consensual sexual acts.
· Insulted or driven away your friends or family.

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YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO:

· You have a right to be yourself. To have your own personality.
· You have a right to live your life without fear and pain. Your children do too.
· You have a right to be the beautiful woman you were meant to be.
· Your have a right to raise your children in a environment of love and protection.
· You have a right to a healthy relationship. One based on love and not manipulation.
· You have a right to excel in your life, making it all you ever dreamed of.
· You have a right to be happy. Not everything is your fault and you did not deserve the abuse.


You are not alone. Help is available. 1 million women each year seek help from abusive partners.
Many like you were confused and afraid. Let them assist you and be a source of strength.

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